Making Sure My Bridges Stay Intact and Building New Ones

Networking is unfortunately the key in every business which also crosses over the outside world. I once had a boss tell me that how well you network effects 75% of your success. Unfortunately we live in a very political world where it isn't what you know but who you know. As a tyro I am still learning this and trying to spread my roots realizing that every meeting is an opportunity to make a good impression on someone.

Anyone in my life can account for what an incredible memory I have. I recount events that happened over eight years ago like it was yesterday. I can creepily remember my roommates class schedule and even the names of some of their friends and family members that I have never met before. Once I even scared one of my roommates by referring to one of her friends by a nickname. In conclusion I am what my famliy likes to refer to me as "the steel trap". Though I have been given much grief over this for most of my life having a good memory has worked very advantegous to me in the working world. I can remember the most tiny details about someone who I might have met once or twice and bring it up to them in our next meeting. Not only do I break down the what I like to call "professional fourth wall" ( similiar to the theater and movie terms when the actor steps out and address the audience. Hey I am sorry I am still influenced by entertainment.) but also it shows that I listen to what people say.

One thing I do struggle with in the network avenue is making sure things stay comfortable and that I don't start rambling about off topic issues or that I don't let my nerves get the best of me. Silences is not something I am comfortable with and I always try to fill the voids with me talking about things. People, especially people who are above you can sense fear they can almost instantly tell when you are uncomfortable. So how do you keep it light well still staying professional but also know how to not let it get the best of you. Well I try a few tatics.

• People absolutlely love talking about themselves. Ask them open ended questions mostly where they are giving their opinions not only are you learning things about them but also you are gaining valuable knowledge.




• Don't sweat the small brush offs. Often times the people you need to talk to are busy people if they seemed rush or distracted just remember they are busy people you are not their number one priority.




• Take constructive criticism eagerly. If they correct something that you are doing wrong don't take it personally take it as a step towards improvement.




• Always always always say thank you. I remember the first time a boss met with me and then afterwards I wrote a physical thank you note. It seemed like a minor detail at the time but it left a lasting impression. You can never say thank you enough times.

Wading my way through school and work as a tyro professional is challenging there are a lot of obstacles I face like having a scatter brain and not being able to express my questions. But the key I have found to learning and growing is asking questions. I know I will never fully master anything and I still have a whole lot of learning ahead of me. Taking advantage of my resources whether it be at school or at work is the best learning experience of all.